Many New York residents have heard about the emotional and financial trials that can come along with divorce. As someone who recently decided to bring your marital relationship to an end, you may understandably worry about what your process will look like. However, as out of control as your life may feel at the moment, remember that you can take steps to feel more in control of your divorce case.

First, you may want to remember that your case does not have to involve conflict, contention and insults at every turn. Even if your marriage has dissolved to that point, you can still choose to act civilly in court. Secondly, you may have more options for reaching the conclusion of your case than you initially believed. Having as much information as possible before you head into your case could make a considerable difference.

When it comes to exploring your options, you may want to look at it from a legal perspective and a personal perspective. Some tips to remember include the following:

  1. Assess your affairs: Gaining information on divorce options is certainly important, but if you do not have the right information about your financial affairs and other personal matters, you may be putting yourself at a disadvantage.
  2. Consider amicable options: Though you and your spouse may no longer get along in a marital capacity, you may be able to put aside your differences in order to act civilly throughout your case. You may even be able to negotiate certain terms before heading to court.
  3. Obtain valuations: If you have expensive property or other costly assets, obtaining professional valuations can better ensure you have the right information about your assets’ worth. If you only think you know how much something is worth, you could receive a rude awakening later if the value comes in differently than you anticipated.
  4. Avoid emotional justice: Though your spouse may have caused you pain during your relationship, the courtroom is not the place to seek emotional justice. The judge will likely not care much about your spouse’s flaws and indiscretions, and trying to bring them up in court may not do you any favors.

Getting through divorce is not easy, and you undoubtedly do not want to spend more time in the courtroom than necessary. Fortunately, you can better understand your options by working with an experienced family law attorney who can help you throughout your case.